Points of Failure
Points of Failure is a podcast about what actually goes wrong, and the part people don't want to look at.
Most conversations about failure happen after it's been cleaned up, framed, and turned into a lesson. This one starts at the breakdown and works backward. Through guest interviews and solo episodes, we examine the patterns behind failure in work, relationships, identity, and decision-making, with a bias toward what people are avoiding rather than what they're processing.
If you're noticing a pattern you can't explain away anymore, you're probably in the right place.
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Points of Failure
S4E22 - The Failure of Being Nice
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On this episode, I explore the failure of being nice.
Not as a personality trait or moral virtue. But as a pattern that feels safe and quietly disconnects us from ourselves over time.
I examine why niceness often becomes a substitute for honesty, how approval replaces self-trust, why conflict avoidance gets mistaken for maturity, and how unspoken expectations slowly turn into resentment.
I break down how this pattern forms, why it’s so socially reinforced, and what happens when the goal changes from acceptance to integrity.
If you’ve ever felt agreeable but muted, patient but misaligned, or good on the surface while feeling smaller underneath, then this episode is for you.
We hope you enjoy this one.
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